This morning I had an interesting conversation with an old friend of mine on the subject of dating. He and I have been friends for a little over 30 years, and although our romantic relationship is one for the archives our friendship has sustained the passage of time. If I have relationship questions who better to ask but a man, better yet a man whose opinion I trust.
We had laughed and talked for about 15 minutes on the of topic dating and how he had been on 2 dates the prior week, and both woman talked continuously about their past dreadful experiences with black men.
On the first date he said he attempted to defend Black men as a whole but to no avail cause his date was so adamant about all black men being the same. He finally came to the conclusion that she only accepted another date with a brother was to Fuck his night up. He had more happening s planned after dinner; but her disposition wore him down and he bowed out soon after the check came. She even had the audacity to call him the next day; but he let her call go to voice mail.
Date #2 was not singing the “all black men are dogs” song but she talked about her recent decision to date outside of her race due to her past relationships with black men. We chatted on the subject a little while longer joking about the 2 sistahs he went out with and he posed the question to me.
Would I ever consider dating outside of my race?
My answer was swift and fixed.
Never!
The thought Never crossed my mind.
He wasn’t shocked I don’t believe, because he knows me completely; but he went on to ask me why not? My experiences with Black men had not been Peachy, including my 16 year marriage. Why had I never given this a thought?
I dug deep yall, and this is what I told him:
I Love Black Men!
Black men intrigue me to no end.
How solemn and detached they can be when thinking of their next move.
I’m so Proud of them
How they hold their head up and sustain their dignity in a country that is littered with impediments designed to derail them.
I Love the way Black men Talk…
How they infuse all of the around the way vernacular into the
Kings English and articulate their points creatively.
Common Sense and Book Sense
Block Knowledge meets formal Education. #Michael Eric Dyson
Who else has that quality?
I Love the way a black men make me feel!
I don’t have to explain myself to a Black man.
He understands me.
He doesn’t Judge me
He shares the same views, hopes, and aspirations that I do
We have the same memories about shit
He was watching Good Times and Soul Train back in the day just like me!
I’m inspired by his Perseverance
I can’t get enough of his drive and ambition.
His determination to succeed…
I Love the way he walks
A Black man can be broke and down on his Luck; but baby that walk is gonna say I own the MOFO place!
I Love the way he treats his Momma.
Most black men have been raised by strong Black woman and understand that the Black Womans Survival instinct is keen and only one part of her multidimensional personality.
And OMG!!!
The way Black men Look and carry themselves…
His Melanin, Lord Have Mercy…
My complexion is fair in the winter and a buttery Carmel in the summer; but I Love me some Brown Skin up against My Brown Skin!!!
Skin so Brown Lips so Round Baby how can I be Down?
Shit!!!!
No body can completely imitate a Black Mans qualities.
Abracadabra! It's Magic... lmfao
That SWAG…
I don’t give a Fuck where you from
VanDyke and Harper
Lenox and a hundred and twenty fifth
Crenshaw and Slauson
Madison & Laramie
or Naturalbridge and Kingshighway
No one can dress like a Black Man
Hat cocked ace deuce
Or fitted cap pulled down low or turned to the back
Crisp hair cut
Fly ass Gear!
It can not be duplicated and does not look the same on anyone else
My Father
My Grand Father
My Son
My Brother
My Uncle
My Kings!!!
I Can’t Live without em yall…
We had laughed and talked for about 15 minutes on the of topic dating and how he had been on 2 dates the prior week, and both woman talked continuously about their past dreadful experiences with black men.
On the first date he said he attempted to defend Black men as a whole but to no avail cause his date was so adamant about all black men being the same. He finally came to the conclusion that she only accepted another date with a brother was to Fuck his night up. He had more happening s planned after dinner; but her disposition wore him down and he bowed out soon after the check came. She even had the audacity to call him the next day; but he let her call go to voice mail.
Date #2 was not singing the “all black men are dogs” song but she talked about her recent decision to date outside of her race due to her past relationships with black men. We chatted on the subject a little while longer joking about the 2 sistahs he went out with and he posed the question to me.
Would I ever consider dating outside of my race?
My answer was swift and fixed.
Never!
The thought Never crossed my mind.
He wasn’t shocked I don’t believe, because he knows me completely; but he went on to ask me why not? My experiences with Black men had not been Peachy, including my 16 year marriage. Why had I never given this a thought?
I dug deep yall, and this is what I told him:
I Love Black Men!
Black men intrigue me to no end.
How solemn and detached they can be when thinking of their next move.
I’m so Proud of them
How they hold their head up and sustain their dignity in a country that is littered with impediments designed to derail them.
I Love the way Black men Talk…
How they infuse all of the around the way vernacular into the
Kings English and articulate their points creatively.
Common Sense and Book Sense
Block Knowledge meets formal Education. #Michael Eric Dyson
Who else has that quality?
I Love the way a black men make me feel!
I don’t have to explain myself to a Black man.
He understands me.
He doesn’t Judge me
He shares the same views, hopes, and aspirations that I do
We have the same memories about shit
He was watching Good Times and Soul Train back in the day just like me!
I’m inspired by his Perseverance
I can’t get enough of his drive and ambition.
His determination to succeed…
I Love the way he walks
A Black man can be broke and down on his Luck; but baby that walk is gonna say I own the MOFO place!
I Love the way he treats his Momma.
Most black men have been raised by strong Black woman and understand that the Black Womans Survival instinct is keen and only one part of her multidimensional personality.
And OMG!!!
The way Black men Look and carry themselves…
His Melanin, Lord Have Mercy…
My complexion is fair in the winter and a buttery Carmel in the summer; but I Love me some Brown Skin up against My Brown Skin!!!
Skin so Brown Lips so Round Baby how can I be Down?
Shit!!!!
No body can completely imitate a Black Mans qualities.
Abracadabra! It's Magic... lmfao
That SWAG…
I don’t give a Fuck where you from
VanDyke and Harper
Lenox and a hundred and twenty fifth
Crenshaw and Slauson
Madison & Laramie
or Naturalbridge and Kingshighway
No one can dress like a Black Man
Hat cocked ace deuce
Or fitted cap pulled down low or turned to the back
Crisp hair cut
Fly ass Gear!
It can not be duplicated and does not look the same on anyone else
My Father
My Grand Father
My Son
My Brother
My Uncle
My Kings!!!
I Can’t Live without em yall…
